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Today’s helpful guest post, brought to us by Rachel-Jean Firchau of Ties.com, is full of fun, unique ideas for the groom-to-be to ask his best friends to be his groomsmen. Enjoy!

You’ve been planning this for a while, and your moment has finally come. You’ve picked out the perfect engagement ring. You’ve garnered up the courage to pop the big question to your significant other, and she said yes! Now, it’s time to pop another big question. This time, to your best friends. That’s right–asking your best friends to be your groomsmen for the big day is, and should be treated as, a big deal. The friends you choose will not only be standing alongside you on the aisle, they will be with you every step of the way leading up to that moment. They will be your support system, help you plan things, make your life easier, and plan a grand bachelor party send-off to get you ready for married life. Once you’ve decided who you’re going to ask, you’ll need to determine how. Here are some of our favorite creative ways to pop the groomsmen question. And with groommen gifts like these, how could they possibly say no?

Read the full post after the cut!

Groomsmen Box

There’s nothing better than giving your best friends a culmination of all their favorite things, especially when it means getting everyone pumped to be a part of your big day. Select a few cool things that you know your friends would appreciate (like a new pair of socks, liquor, a cigar, matches, handkerchiefs, etc.) and a creative container to put them all in, like a tin box or a miniature crate. Print specialized labels (download some for free here and here) if you want to go the extra mile.

Cigar Invite

Cigars are a long-established tradition for the men involved in the big day. If you and your friends are the type to enjoy a good cigar every now and then, what better way to celebrate your engagement and pop the question to them? Choose your favorite and present each of your soon-to-be groomsmen with a cigar tied neatly to a piece of stationery that asks (or kindly demands) their attendance on your big day. Alternatively, you could invite all of your friends to a smoking lounge and make the announcement there, too.


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Custom-Labeled Liquor or Beer

Invite all your friends over to your place for a get-together and present them with custom-labeled bottles of their favorite liquor or beer, complete with the details of your wedding and the big question; what could be better (and simpler) than that? The personal touch makes it that much more special, and then when everyone says yes and congratulates you, you can celebrate by pouring yourselves a drink! Cheers to that.


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Shaving Kit

Every man can appreciate a nice shave. Show your friends how much they mean to you by presenting them a cool, convenient kit complete with everything he needs. Hey, you want them looking sharp on your wedding day, don’t you?

Plan a Get-Together

Maybe you and your friends aren’t really into exchanging gifts. Rather than give them an actual item, plan a get-together to get all your friends in one place to pop the question at once. Take your friends beer tasting, golfing, to a baseball game, or to a coffee shop–whatever suits your interests–and have a great time while also celebrating your engagement.

Wedding Essentials Box

Prep your friends for your big day by presenting them with everything they need for your wedding and taking the guesswork out of what to wear. You’ll need to include the accessories you want them wearing when they stand by your side. Once you and your fiancee agree on the wedding’s color scheme (and only after this has been decided!), select your ties, bow ties, pocket squares, lapel pins, socks, and/or whatever else you want to make up your wedding attire arsenal. Package them up in a nice box and print out a card asking your friends to suit up for the big day.


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Wedding Survival Checklist

This concept is like the essentials box but one step further. You want to make it as easy as possible for your friends to say yes to spending a ton of money on making your big day (and your bachelor party) a hit, right? Soften the blow by asking them with a wedding survival kit. Throw in a flask (full of their liquor, to soften the nerves), a few hangover remedies (aspirin, powerade, etc. to deal with the morning after the bachelor party, the morning after the wedding, the morning after you give this kit to them…), the tie/bow tie you’d like them to wear when they stand by your side (to give them one less thing to worry about), and anything else you think they’d need to survive being your groomsman. They’ll appreciate the consideration you took to put it together, and they couldn’t possibly say no after you’ve made it oh so easy.

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A final note on groomsmen gifts. It should be said that regardless of how you ask your best friends to be your best men, all that really matters is that you are personal, thoughtful, and reasonably generous (being a groomsman is hard work–be thankful!). You don’t have to break the bank to make this action significant, but as long as you spend some time making an effort and showing your friends how much saying yes will mean to you, the gesture will absolutely be appreciated.

Thanks Rachel! For more information about Ties.com, please visit their WeddingLovely Vendor Guide profile or head straight to their website.

What do you think of these groomsmen invite ideas? Are there any that you would add? Let us know in the comments below!


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  • Sarah Chancey

    Loving this post, it’s about time we had something shared like this, rather than the typical will you be my bridesmaid post! Great job!

    • weddinglovely

      Thanks Sarah! We’re always so pleased to work with such great vendors who can write awesome articles like these. :)