Today’s helpful guest post comes to us from wedding planner Brittany Collier of Chancey Charm! Enjoy:

While undoubtedly, it’s your day, a portion of the wedding planning process is always focused on creating a memorable guest experience. After all, you want your guests to enjoy themselves and remember the beautiful celebration of your marriage. Chancey Charm Washington, DC wedding planner Brittany Collier is sharing four awkward wedding moments and how to avoid them!

Read the full post after the cut!

Divorced Parents Debate

If you have divorced parents, the etiquette is to have them both sit on the front row, with their new spouse, if re-married. If you feel this may cause any tension, it may be best to have one parent sit on the second row. But, keep in mind that grandparents are traditionally seated on the second row, unless there is room on the front row. Talk to your coordinator about your preferences so she can ensure a smooth ceremony.

Another potentially awkward situation to consider, with divorced parents each paying for 50 percent of the wedding, is toast time. I just had a tasting with a couple in this situation, and her parents both want to give a speech at the reception. Map this out ahead of time so everyone is on the same page when it comes time to pass the mic!

Playing Favorites

Be sure to have a solid plan for your bridal party of who will sit and stand where, discussed with your day-of coordinator, prior to the rehearsal. This will ensure everything runs smoothly and quickly, avoiding awkward decision making in front of friends and family during rehearsal.

So Long Sanctity

I highly suggest having the flower girl and/or ring bearer sit down with their parents after their walk down the aisle. Having a little one standing up in front of guests for an extended period of time can sometimes prove as a distraction to the service. While, yes, they are adorable, they will get antsy.

If your guests are bringing children, or you have multiple young kids in your family, consider hiring an event child care service. They will be able to entertain the little ones during your ceremony so that your precious vows (and video) aren’t interrupted by a talkative toddler or fussy baby. Then they can rejoin the group for the reception!

All Photos By: Inga Finch Photography

Cafeteria Flashbacks Looking for a Place to Eat

For smaller, more intimate weddings, having a seating chart for the reception might not be necessary. But consider a large group – like your college girlfriends – who want to sit together, but there’s not enough room at one table. Or, if a couple wants to sit together, but is forced to split up. You might think you’re doing your guests a favor by allowing them to choose where to sit for the reception, but with some groups, it’s better to decide for them to ensure everyone is happily seated.

And if you opt out of the traditional seating chart, it is important to have the caterer or your coordinator place reserved signs on a few tables for the wedding party and immediate family. Otherwise, they will end up dispersed throughout the reception, after photos are complete.

Brittany Collier serves as Chancey Charm’s Washington DC Wedding Planner and Coordinator with a special love for destination weddings in Loudoun County. With 8+ years of experience in corporate events and weddings, Brittany is skilled in building relationships, negotiating contracts, budgeting, logistics and timeline management. Thanks to her organizational skills and impeccable focus on the client, DC brides enjoy the wedding planning experience stress-free.

Great advice Brittany; thanks for sharing! For more information about Chancey Charm, please visit their WeddingLovely Vendor Guide profile or head straight to their website.

Do you have any questions or comments for Brittany? Add them to the comments below!

 


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  • Kristen Ley

    Love these tips Brittany! I love when the venue has someone on standby who is willing to take a child who cannot be consoled out of the ceremony so the parent can enjoy the beautiful vows without disrupting them!