12 Ways to Have Your Dream Wedding, Part 6: Wedding Parties

Cheryl of Cheryl Ford Photography is joining us again today with Part 6 in her in-depth guest post series. Enjoy!

12 Ways to Have Your Dream Wedding – Part 6 – Wedding Parties
Welcome Back to Part 5 of my blog series on 12 Ways to Have Your Dream Wedding. Over the course of these months I will be sharing with you a series of articles to help you have the most amazing day of your life. In case you missed it, you may want to catch up on the past articles:
Part 1 :: Money Talk
Part 2 :: Hiring a Photographer
Part 3 :: Hiring a Wedding Planner
Part 4 :: Plan Ahead
Part 5 :: “Pinspiration”

Read the full post after the cut!


I’ve written these articles to share with you my perspective on what you can do to have your Dream Wedding. A lot of this is just good old common sense and none of it is that much work. But I promise if you incorporate these ideas into the planning of your wedding day, you will reap the rewards of a beautiful, calm and fun wedding day of your dreams! Trust me.

SELECTING YOUR WEDDING PARTY

These are the friends and family who stand up with you on the most important day of your life, who support you, help you, encourage you and stand by your side during the wedding process. So I say pick your wedding party CAREFULLY.

I’m not going to tell you how many attendants to have. There is a ton of information out there on the standard etiquette, blah blah blah. Some places will tell you that if you have a larger wedding, you can/should have more attendants. I don’t necessarily buy into that. I’m not going to tell you you shouldn’t have 10 best friends if you have 10 best friends and want to include them all. Or if you have a best friend who is a guy and want him in your bridal party. I’m not going to tell you that you have to have a wedding party at all if you don’t want to. That’s not really what this article is about.

If you decide you want to have a wedding party, keep this in mind. I think that when it comes to picking people for your wedding party, you will have initial inclinations. You have two sisters so they have to be in the wedding party; right? Maybe. What if one of them lives across the country and you aren’t close and literally talk to her once a year. Do you still have to put her in your wedding party? I think some will disagree with me, but I say you don’t have to. Yep I said it. You have to weigh all of the information for yourself and make the best choice for you and your wedding and your family or social circle dynamic.

Everyone knows someone who just stirs up drama. The girlfriend who you know won’t like the dress everyone else in the wedding party likes. Just because… The friend who just doesn’t really get along with others, snaps at people or drinks too much. The competitive sister or cousin who needs to “show up” someone else in the family. Do you want to deal with the unnecessary drama and stress that they will bring? Are the people you are including as your wedding party truly those who will selflessly be at your side during the planning and on your wedding day? Emotions run high on a wedding day and adding someone who is going to increase that is, in my opinion, a bad idea.

I’m not going to drag this on and on. Think about who you pick carefully. Pick who you want to pick. It’s your wedding; right?

But, and you know there is always the but . . . you HAVE to, I repeat you HAVE to communicate with people. If you think someone is going to get their feelings hurt or get upset because they’re expecting to be asked to be in your wedding, you HAVE to talk to them. There are many elements to a wedding and there are few things I’m going to advise that you HAVE to do but this is one you have to do. You know what will make things even more stressful? Your sister who throws a fit on your wedding day because you didn’t ask her to be in your wedding and never talked to her about it. Enough said.

Thank you Cheryl! For more information about Cheryl Ford Photography, please visit her WeddingLovely Vendor Guide Profile or head straight to her website. Today’s post was originally published on Cheryl’s blog.

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