How to Pick the Perfect Song for Your First Dance

Picking your first dance can be tricky… you want a song that is personal to both of you, but feels just right for the big moment! On a practical level, your first dance can also be a great way to encourage people on to the dance floor, hopefully leaving it packed for the rest of the night. Fortunately, we at Last Minute Musicians are on hand to offer some insight into picking the perfect first dance!

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Picking your song…

Do you want the original recording or to have it performed by the band?

One of the first things you should think about is whether you would like your band (or act) to perform your first dance. Many wedding bands will happily learn something at your request, but you should always check this when you first get in touch to make an enquiry or as soon as you’ve started to consider it.

If you would prefer to have the original song played over the band’s PA system, this can usually be accommodated, but do be sure to send them a specific link to or MP3 version of the song you would like.

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Think of some important moments you’ve had as a couple

Perhaps there was someone playing music at the restaurant where you had your first date? Maybe you both went to a concert early on in the relationship? A song you heard on holiday? Cast your mind back over some of the best moments you’ve had together – you’ll probably find that music played a part of them in some way, big or small!

Consider the style of the band

If you have already booked your band before deciding your first dance, then consider the style of music they play when selecting it… you might have met your beloved when your eyes locked across the dance floor at an AC/DC concert, but if you have decided on a folk band for your festival-style “wedfest” (currently a very popular choice, by the way!) then they probably won’t be able to pull off a note-for-note stylistically perfect version of “You Shook Me All Night Long”!

Some bands will happily take requests and perform a song in their own style, but you have to be prepared for it not to sound exactly like the recording. Acoustic bands, for instance, will usually perform requests in more of a “Live Lounge” type style.

Top tip: Some bands may offer the option of recording a version of them playing the first dance for you in advance, to help you make up your mind, but be prepared for them to charge a modest additional cost for the extra time involved.

Picking the Perfect First Dance Song

Ask the band’s advice

Your band will almost certainly have a repertoire list (this can definitely be found on their Last Minute Musicians profile, for instance), and this can be a great place to start if you’re stuck with song choices! Plus, if you’ve already booked your band, then there is nothing wrong with asking their advice… they might have had some really cool requests in the past!

Popular suggestions

If none of the above is working for you, here are some popular suggestions for your first dance, across a couple of different styles!

“Thinking Out Loud” by Ed Sheeran
“All of Me” by John Legend
“How Long Will I Love You” by Ellie Goulding
“Just The Way You Are” by Bruno Mars
“All About You” by McFly
“Hey Ho” by The Lumineers

“You Are The Sunshine Of My Life” by Stevie Wonder
“Somebody To Love” by Queen
“The Book of Love” by Peter Gabriel
“Wonderful Tonight” by Eric Clapton
“Your Song” by Elton John
“Let’s Stay Together” by Al Green
“Can’t Take My Eyes Off Of You” by Frankie Valli & The Four Seasons

“For Lovers” by Wolfman ft Peter Doughty
“It Must Be Love” by Madness
“Better Together” by Jack Johnson
“You and Me Song” by The Wannadies
“Crazy Little Thing Called Love” by Queen
“Everything” by Michael Buble

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Once you’ve decided…

Let the band know in adequate time

If you do want your band to perform your first dance, make sure you let them know as far in advance as you can – they will need time to learn and rehearse the song!

Consider Inviting people on to the dance floor

If you want a packed dance floor for the night, a great way to start is by inviting your guests to join you halfway through your first dance. You don’t have to do this yourself – ask your band or DJ, they’ll be more than happy to accommodate this. Letting them know on the day should be fine.

Think about when you’d like your dance to take place

It may sound odd, but your first dance doesn’t necessarily need to be the first thing to happen. Most of your guests will understand If you’d like some time to acclimatize, so you can always ask the band or DJ to play a couple of tunes first, to warm everyone into the evening.

Top tip: If you’d like any more help on picking your music for the big day, you can read these articles for ideas for Wedding Receptions and Planning Your Wedding Music.

Finally, huge congratulations from everyone at Last Minute Musicians on your engagement, and all the best for the big day!

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