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Today’s helpful guest post, brought to us by Sally of Wedding Card Message, is full of thoughtful ideas for when you just don’t know what to write in a wedding card! Enjoy:

When someone you know, be that a family member, close friend or just an acquaintance is getting married then you’ll probably want to send them a wedding card and maybe some flowers. It’s the perfect way of showing you’re thinking of them and congratulates them on what is a momentous day. But when it comes to writing in the card you may find yourself struggling or lost for words. Something on the face of it that would seem so easy is actually far more daunting than you’d considered. If that is the case then don’t worry, it’s a lot more common than you might think – knowing the right thing to say, how to avoid anything that could be offensive and finding the words to express exactly what you’re feeling. Many people worry they will get those wrong. Hopefully this guide will help to allay your fears and enable you to get the perfect wedding card message.

Read the full post after the cut!

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What to Say

This will partly come down to how well you know the couple and the type of message you intend to use. For example do you want something formal or more casual? Do you want to be funny or witty in your card? Are you just looking for a very straightforward and simple congratulations? Or can you not make it and need to let them know in the best possible way? We’ll take a look at all the different messages below as well as giving you examples you can either copy for your card or use as a guide for writing your own.

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Quick and Simple

A short and to the point message is the easiest way to go. Something warm and that shows you care is perfect if you don’t want anything too lengthy.

  • Wishing you a wonderful ceremony with lots of wonderful memories
  • May you have a long and happy life together
  • Here’s to a great wedding and an even better life together. All the best and good luck for the future
  • We wish that your love and happiness increases and you grow old together
  • May you share precious moments together. You’re such a lovely couple!
  • We’re so happy for both of you
  • May today be the beginning of a long and wonderful journey together
  • We’re so happy to be celebrating this day with the both of you!
  • Wishing you a lifetime of happiness and love
  • Thank you for letting us share in your joyous day

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Wishing the happy couple congratulations is a no brainer. It’s a huge day for them and wishing them congratulations is one of the most common wedding card sentiments.

  • Wishing the both of you all the love and happiness in the world and congratulations on your marriage
  • Congratulations, wishing you both the best life can give you
  • Congratulations! I/we wish you all the happiness in the world
  • I hope your love grows day by day. Congratulations on your marriage
  • Congratulations! We’re so happy for you and you make a wonderful couple
  • Warmest congratulations
  • Congratulations! I know you’re going to make each other so happy

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Using a funny message can be a little risky. You need to ensure you know the couple well enough that they won’t take offense or find it inappropriate. If you know they’re the sort who will enjoy a laugh and not take themselves too seriously then go ahead. But be careful and proceed with caution!

  • Keep calm and don’t do it!
  • You will have moments when you really love each other, then there will be the rest of the time
  • Marriage means commitment. Of course so does insanity!
  • All weddings are happy. It’s the living together afterwards that’s difficult!
  • The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret
  • Thanks for inviting us to eat and drink whilst you get married!

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You Can’t Make It

It’s disappointing if you can’t make their big day but sometimes these things are unavoidable. That doesn’t mean you can’t wish them well and send a card or note letting them know you’re thinking of them.

  • So sorry we can’t be there! We’ll be thinking of you though
  • We’ll be with you in spirit even if we can’t be there! Have a great day
  • We feel terrible we couldn’t attend what must have been such a special day but please know you have all our love
  • Wishing we could celebrate with you. Best wishes

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What to Avoid Saying

There are a few obvious things to avoid saying in your card:

  • Firstly, don’t criticize or be judgmental about their wedding in any way. You may not approve of aspects or think they are making a mistake in some area but it’s very inappropriate to mention any of that in a card.
  • You shouldn’t feel the need to explain why you can’t attend the wedding if you can’t either. Whilst you may feel guilty about not attending a wedding card is not the place to bring it up.
  • It’s also advisable not to use anything religious unless you are certain the couple would welcome it. If you are in any doubt then steer clear of any religious elements as you could end up causing offense.

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How long you decide to make the message is really down to personal preference. There are a couple of things you may want to keep in mind though. Something short and simple is the most common and easiest. If you feel a longer message is more fitting though then you shouldn’t feel put off doing so. Only you know the couple it’s intended for so are the best judge.

What you choose to say in your message may on the face of it seem fairly insignificant but for the couple the acknowledgement from friends or family and wishing them well can be invaluable. Whilst you may find coming up with the exact words to express how you feel towards the couple tricky know that as long as it comes from the heart and is done with love it will be warmly appreciated.

Sally is a retired mother of 2 who now spends her time baking, making cards and running her website Wedding Card Message. To learn more about Wedding Card Message, please visit her WeddingLovely Vendor Guide profile.